Tell Me Why

Tell Me Why

A few weeks ago a friend asked me a pointed question seemingly out of nowhere. The text came abruptly: “Why do you love Jesus so…

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My Thoughts Toward You

My Thoughts Toward You

A few years back while preparing to teach a course on trauma, I came across a lovingkindness meditation. I started using it in class. It…

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Just Me, Google and My Bible? Loving a Passionate and Responsive God

Just Me, Google and My Bible? Loving a Passionate and Responsive God

The French speaking Swiss psychologist, Jean Piaget studied the development of thinking in children. As a constructionist, he believed our knowledge is constructed, not acquired….

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Season 2 Episode 2: A Conversation with Helms and Greg Jarrell on Community and Belonging

Season 2 Episode 2: A Conversation with Helms and Greg Jarrell on Community and Belonging

New episode on Unstuck just released. Bet you thought it would never happen again! In this episode I get to share with you a conversation…

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Advent Companions of Hope: Sitting with Darkness

Advent Companions of Hope: Sitting with Darkness

Today is the first day of Advent. On each of the four weeks of Advent, a new candle in the circle, or wreath, is lit….

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I'm Going to Brush Your Hair

I’m Going to Brush Your Hair

This post is for those fearfully sensing depression creeping in with the season change. I see you. I hear you. This is real. I’m WITH you….

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The Curious Occurrence of Generational Hoarding

The Curious Occurrence of Generational Hoarding

Pain travels through families until someone is ready to feel it. Stephi Wagner I am going to describe a series of scenes in a family…

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Intimate Justice: Wild Goose Edition of Unstuck Live From Hot Springs, North Carolina

Intimate Justice: Wild Goose Edition of Unstuck Live From Hot Springs, North Carolina

This summer I had the amazing opportunity to have a brave conversation with a panel of women on the topic of sex and what we…

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Burnt Pancakes (or...Go Ahead and Schedule Failure)

Burnt Pancakes (or…Go Ahead and Schedule Failure)

There are certain seasons…certain spaces…certain days…ok, certain HOURS…when I can start spiraling into a vortex of crumbling self-worth. Like you, I am sure there are…

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Don't Be Squirrelly

Don’t Be Squirrelly

I like squirrels. I think they are cute. Bushy backside, collecting nuts. I don’t experience them as rodents with long tails like some people do…

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To My Christian Friends From a Therapist on Depression, Anxiety, and Suicide

To My Christian Friends From a Therapist on Depression, Anxiety, and Suicide

This morning I woke up with consistent, low grade anxiety. I felt it in my chest as soon as I became semi-conscious. Of course, it…

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Hey, Mama. It ISN'T Up to You

Hey, Mama. It ISN’T Up to You

Hey, Mama. Happy Mother’s Day. I hope you got a slew of handmade cards and gifts inspired by all the sweet teachers and daddy’s out…

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Hagar and the God Who Sees Me

Hagar and the God Who Sees Me

A common misconception about therapy or counseling is that it is a place to go to get advice. Technically speaking, we therapists don’t give advice….

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Fill Out the Damn Survey

Fill Out the Damn Survey

I go to Dairy Queen the other day to use a coupon for a hot fudge sundae. When I pay, the man at the cash…

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Changes and Your New Normal

Changes and Your New Normal

I have a lot of teachers in my life…family, friends. My mom was a teacher. She taught high school chemistry for many years followed by…

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